while making friends..

"What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies" - Aristotle..

is this really true?? tonight i was thinking about it, how a single soul dwells in two bodies?? how it is possible..
may be answer is pyschologically.. or...

perhaps, i feel, the definitions are different given by different authors.. we dnt even need it... but in real sense what is friendship??

is it like, similar habits of two persons, similar state of mind, similar style or different habits, styles, or state of mind..??
Personally i feel, it never see whether it is similar things or different, it just see how the opposite person is??? it is related to physical & psychological traits of a person. and these criteria differs from person to person.

its all depend upon our perception... how we interpret someone...

some people think dark, ugly, physically unfit, mentally challenged person can not be their friends. some people think vice-versa.. such people keeps some criteria in their mind while choosing their friends.. while choosing their friends, is it really need to keep such criteria??

criteria can be something else like, trust-worthyness of that person, loyalty or honesty of that person etc... but then also people think about dark, ugly, handsome, tall, short etc. etc traits..

people says that "choose your friends cautiously.. be selective...", i feel this is a right thing.. but it doesnt mean that we should choose our friends on criteria of physical & psychological traits. no, never. till now even i have also come across lots of friends.. good friends, bad friends... while making friends i never kept any criteria.. people become my friend as we meet.. but later on, i have to decide with whom i have to keep good relationships & all...

if i also would be like selective while choosing my friends, i would choose selective people from a number of people. it doesnt mean that i have chosen right person as my friend. and even that time other might have thought like i am like a swagger... etc etc..

you can never expect, your chosen friend may behave like this or not, unless and until you know that person totally.. and if you know such person totally, then there is nothing to scare about a harm from that person.. because you know that person..
you trust that person negatively or positively.. and accordingly your mind will create your invisible shield!

you have a option while making friends is - you can be selective while making friends. choose a person, after knowing them totally, (i kno.. its not possible to know anyone totally without being a good friend..) after understanding their behaviour, their life-styles & other traits.. here people may think you are a swagger..

or your second option is - you can make as many as friends, and next step is know them, understand their behaviour and then think how you want to continue the friendship with them! in this method, you wont loose a single person you come across, who knows, out of so many people, someone may become your best friend, closest friend, life partner etc...

making all the people friends is not a habit, it is a personality trait how a person move ahead.. some people believe in making as many as friends as possible, some people prefer to stick their selective friends' principle.. its all about the tendency of a person...

i, personally, dnt think that there is danger in making as many as friends.. it is not because they can harm us.. it is because we stay careless... this careless harms us..
the mistake is on the part of us.. not their.. remaining thing is the attitude of chosen friend, and that you can not change it...
act according to situation, act according to the traits of opposite person.. it will never harm you.. it helps you to survive...


So, dnt be selective while making friends.. who knows, who will help you in any problem!!
just go ahead, give them a smile,
have a nice shake-hand...
& say - "Hey, would you like to be my friend??"